Thoughts on the Coldplay kiss‑cam scandal …
- Shawn Haywood, PhRD
- Jul 24
- 3 min read
If you’ve seen the news about the Coldplay kiss‑cam scandal,
you are most likely feeling something stir inside you — something raw, unsettling, and deeply familiar. It gnaws at your stomach and aggravates your patience.
It’s everywhere: the headlines, TikToks, memes and news headlines on social media. And while much of the world seems to be delighting in the scandal — pointing fingers, assigning blame, labeling one person the villain and the other a fool — I want to take a moment with YOU, heart to heart.
Because if you're someone who has chosen to stay after an affair…
If you're someone who is trying to heal, to understand, to rebuild love, instead of walk away…
You heart may be feeling tender right now, and you may be feeling more doubt and confusion seeping into your life.
This kind of public spectacle can shake your resolve. It can make you wonder:
🗨️Am I weak for staying?
🗨️Am I stupid for hoping this marriage can become something new?
🗨️Does anyone understand what this actually feels like on the inside?
🗨️Will I become a joke to the people I love if they ever found out what ‘he’ did?
If you can relate, please know that you are in the right place.
I know this already tender time has been exacerbated this week.
But please hear this, my sweet friend:
You are not weak.
You are not foolish.
You ARE incredibly courageous for being curious about what healing could look like — not just for your marriage, but for your own heart.
The truth is, most people don’t understand what happens inside a relationship when an affair occurs. They don’t understand the complexity of overwhelming, seemingly conflicting emotions … the grief, the love, the fear, the desire to repair.
So it’s easier for them to mock. To judge. To gossip. Then to face the truth about affairs.
But that has nothing to do with you.
This is tender terrain, and you don’t have to walk it alone.
If the current news cycle is stirring up confusion, sadness, or doubt, we invite you to take a deep breath… and step away from the noise. Truly — please consider staying off social media if it's making the pain worse.
And if you’re ready for something different — a space that honors both partners, that sees healing as an act of strength, not shame — then I invite you to schedule a complimentary Breakthrough Call with me.
In this call, you’ll discover the kind of compassionate, courageous support we offer at Reimagine Love — rooted in love, not judgment. Our work isn’t about "fixing" a marriage in the traditional sense. It’s about creating an entirely new kind of deep connection — one that’s honest, vulnerable, and unbreakable.
We are shifting the narrative around affairs.
Because if you are willing to do the work, an affair can become the catalyst for extraordinary change — a doorway into the marriage you always hoped was possible.
If that resonates with you, we’re here.
About Dr. Shawn Haywood
Dr. Shawn Haywood is the founder of Reimagine Love. She is a classically trained therapist, as well as a life and marriage coach, who loves to work with women and couples to help them heal fully after an affair. Over the past 25 years, she has helped thousands of women move from the cycle of disconnect to one of unbreakable love and connection, while healing fully after infidelity, in a fraction of the time of traditional marriage counseling.
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