When Your Mind Won’t Let It Go…

Shawn Haywood, PhRD
4 days ago
2 min read

Updated: 1 hour ago

I see you—the exhaustion, the mental loops, the way your brain won’t stop replaying what happened even when you beg it to.

It’s like a movie you never chose, stuck on repeat.

You wake up thinking about it. You replay conversations, hunting for clues. You wonder what else you don’t know. And the smallest trigger—a phrase, a song, a place—drops you right back into pain.

This isn’t because you’re weak or “should know better.” Your brain is trying to protect you. Right now, hypervigilance has your nervous system on high alert—scanning for danger, keeping you stuck in the past and the pain.

Here’s the truth: moving forward isn’t forcing yourself to “stop thinking about it." It’s learning to master your attention, so your thoughts don’t run the show—and your body can settle enough to choose peace on purpose. Emotions are the language of the body, thoughts are the language of the mind–you must teach them to work together - not against each other.

Imagine…

💛 Waking up and realizing the affair was not the first thing on your mind.

💛 Hearing a name or memory without it hijacking your day.

💛 Feeling steady, present, and in charge of where your energy goes.

That’s why I created Master Your Attention to Heal Fully After an Affair - This is one module in our Triage Affair Recovery Program.

In this module of the course, you’ll learn simple, potent practices to:

Interrupt rumination and nighttime spirals in real time
Calm trigger spikes with quick, body-based resets
Re-center your focus so work and family feel possible again
Build daily rituals that keep you grounded (not just “white-knuckling” it)

The full program is 10 weeks.

You can participate in 3 ways:

Self-Guided
With expert guidance through small group sessions
With full support: group sessions, individual and couples sessions

If you’re ready to break free from the loop, you can get there.

Then schedule a call with me to talk about how this program could work for you. During this call, you will receive a 90-Day recovery plan tailored to you and your situation.

You deserve to feel like you again. And yes—that’s possible.

With love,

Dr. Shawn Haywood

About Dr. Shawn Haywood

Dr. Shawn Haywood is the founder of Reimagine Love. She is a classically trained therapist, as well as a life and marriage coach, who loves to work with women and couples to help them heal fully after an affair. Over the past 25 years, she has helped thousands of women move from the cycle of disconnect to one of unbreakable love and connection, while healing fully after infidelity, in a fraction of the time of traditional marriage counseling.