Stop Triggers & Clear Your Mind– Next Right Step

Shawn Haywood, PhRD
Nov 22
2 min read

When a trigger hijacks your body, start with your nervous system. Get grounded so you can decide wisely.

Whether you were betrayed or you were the one who broke trust, you’re in one of the hardest seasons of your life.

And right now, triggers run the show. A ping on your phone. A date on the calendar. A street you both drove. A song. A silence.

Your body surges: hyper-vigilance, replaying the past, fearing the future; sleepless nights, racing thoughts; trouble focusing on anything—but the affair.

Your brain isn’t torturing you—it’s trying to protect you.

But if trigger responses keep firing, you stay stuck there. What you rehearse becomes your default.

Why the first step isn’t a big decision…

You can’t make clear choices from a dysregulated nervous system state. Survival mode pushes “all-or-nothing” answers: Do I stay or go? Am I unforgivable or redeemable? Is this over or salvageable?

Real clarity lives in the gray—BUT you access it by calming your body, your nervous system FIRST.

Meet The Affair Recovery Accelerator

A focused collection of short modules and guided practices designed to move you from trigger → regulation → clarity.

Inside, you’ll learn how to:

Interrupt rumination and nighttime spirals—especially after a trigger • Soothe anxiety spikes in minutes with simple, body-based resets (car, bathroom, bed at 2am)
Rebuild internal safety so choices feel steadier—not reactive
Reduce reactivity and communicate from a grounded place (including co-regulation scripts)

This is the first step—not deciding the whole future. It’s stabilizing your present so you can take the next right move.

It’s for you if:

Your partner had an affair and your emotions feel overwhelming and unmanageable, or
You had the affair and carry crushing guilt—and you want to move from shame to responsibility and repair

Get immediate access for $597 → Click here for Affair Recovery Accelerator

You don’t have to do this alone. There is a path forward. Start with the step that makes every other step easier.

Warmly,

Dr. Shawn Haywood

About Dr. Shawn Haywood

Dr. Shawn Haywood is the founder of Reimagine Love. She is a classically trained therapist, as well as a life and marriage coach, who loves to work with women and couples to help them heal fully after an affair. Over the past 25 years, she has helped thousands of women move from the cycle of disconnect to one of unbreakable love and connection, while healing fully after infidelity, in a fraction of the time of traditional marriage counseling.