she felt like a crazy person (until she did this)
- Shawn Haywood, PhRD
- May 31
- 2 min read
Every time your phone vibrates on the nightstand, does your heart hit your ribs like a sledgehammer?
You aren't just checking a text anymore. You’re bracing for the next blow, the next piece of evidence that your world is actually coming apart.
One of my clients, Debbie, actually lost 10 pounds in just one week doing exactly that.
Before we started, she was in a state of total physical collapse.
She couldn't sleep. Every night, she’d just stare at the ceiling in the dark, her heart racing so hard she could actually hear it in her ears.
She told me: "I feel like a crazy person. I’m just desperate to make my brain shut up for five minutes."
Fast forward two months, Debbie isn’t just surviving anymore. She’s solid.
Those 3 AM panic attacks are gone. She’s found a level of deep, internal calm she hasn't felt in years.
She can finally see the road ahead for them, and they’re actually building a marriage that feels connected and, well, loving again.
And she didn’t get there by "waiting for time to heal." She got there by learning how to rewire the way her nervous system reacts to the betrayal.
I know you might feel a million miles away from that right now. I get it.
But if you’re stuck in that loop, checking his phone and replaying the same fight until 4:00 AM, you don’t have to stay there.
I’ve opened up a few spots this week for a Breakthrough Call. It’s just a quiet, safe space to look at what’s actually happening and find your next right step:
You are NOT losing your mind. What you’re feeling is a trauma response. When your heart is shattered, your body goes into high-alert survival mode.
That "crazy" feeling is just your brain trying to find a safe spot in a house that’s currently on fire.
Your brain is doing exactly what it was designed to do. K?
But staying in survival mode will eventually bankrupt your health and your sanity.
You don’t need more willpower. You just need a way to steady your nervous system so you can finally breathe again.
Hugs,
Shawn
P.S. Even Debbie’s husband noticed the shift. He said it helped them actually let go of the negative energy instead of just talking about it until they were both exhausted. You deserve that same relief. Grab your spot on the calendar.
About Dr. Shawn Haywood
Dr. Shawn Haywood is the founder of Reimagine Love. She is a classically trained therapist, as well as a life and marriage coach, who loves to work with women and couples to help them heal fully after an affair. Over the past 25 years, she has helped thousands of women move from the cycle of disconnect to one of unbreakable love and connection, while healing fully after infidelity, in a fraction of the time of traditional marriage counseling.
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