How Jennifer broke free- and so can you!
- Shawn Haywood, PhRD
- 4 days ago
- 2 min read
If your husband’s affair has left you with intrusive thoughts, emotional flooding, trouble sleeping, or constant scanning for “signs,” I want to say this loudly:
What you’re experiencing is consistent with a trauma response—often referred to as betrayal trauma. Your mind, heart and willpower are not failing you. They are trying to protect you.
When trust is ruptured in a primary relationship, the nervous system can stay on high alert. That’s why thoughts feel “sticky,” why your body reacts before your logic can catch up, and why “just move on” isn’t realistic (or clinically accurate).
And I also want to name something important from a spiritual perspective:
Your ongoing distress is not a spiritual failure.
This is a wound.
And a wound that requires care.
Here’s what Jennifer said while doing the necessary healing work with our amazing team:
“I came in feeling consumed by intrusive thoughts, anxiety, and even feelings of panic at times. In the beginning of our first session, I asked Dr. Haywood, ‘What’s wrong with me, why can’t I just move on and leave all of this behind? I love my husband after all…’
She taught me so much about the science and spiritual impact behind betrayal trauma—how it impacts, not only the nervous system, but the mind, body and spirit as well—and having the clear guidance, along with simple and practical tools that didn’t shame my pain, or my husband’s, changed everything! I learned practical tools to regulate myself, to lovingly honor myself, to rebuild self-trust (and trust in my husband), and to grow in the most profound connection with myself and Jake that either of us had ever experienced.
Over time, I started to feel steady again—clear, calm, and genuinely healed from an event I previously never thought I could get past. What a gift Shawn and her team are– Thank you from the bottom of my heart.”
If any of that feels like you, I want to invite you to take one courageous, supported step:
On this call, we’ll help you:
Understand what’s happening in your brain and body (so you stop blaming yourself or even your husband-which is necessary for healing…)
Identify what’s keeping you stuck in loops and hyper-vigilance
Clarify the “next right steps” for your healing—clinically and spiritually
Begin rebuilding self-trust so peace of mind returns to you
You don’t need to have all the answers before you reach out. You don’t need to be “more healed or less healed” to ask for help. You simply need a starting point.
If you’re ready, book your Breakthrough Call here.
With love and hugs,
Shawn
About Dr. Shawn Haywood
Dr. Shawn Haywood is the founder of Reimagine Love. She is a classically trained therapist, as well as a life and marriage coach, who loves to work with women and couples to help them heal fully after an affair. Over the past 25 years, she has helped thousands of women move from the cycle of disconnect to one of unbreakable love and connection, while healing fully after infidelity, in a fraction of the time of traditional marriage counseling.
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