you don't have to be good at okay anymore

Shawn Haywood, PhRD
Apr 24
2 min read

The first 25 years of my life I did not believe I was lovable.

I am not saying that for effect.

I genuinely did not know.

So I went looking for love everywhere I could think of.

I mean everywhere.

I even stayed in a relationship that was slowly destroying me because needing love that badly makes you do things you never thought you would.

I let that unspoken weight rot in my chest for a long time.

And oh my gosh the relief of finally saying all of it to someone who was not going to flinch or run out of time or need me to make it smaller.

That is what I want for you.

If you have been carrying something that has never once been said out loud - I want to hear it.

The women who find their way to me are never the ones who are visibly falling apart.

They are the ones holding everything together so quietly and so well that the people around them have genuinely stopped asking.

I know exactly what it costs to keep carrying this without anywhere real to put it down.

I carried it that way for a long time too.

And the thing is, you don't have to be 'good at okay' anymore.

You are allowed to put the heavy lifting down and just be HEARD.

We'll spend fifty minutes together, just us, and everything you share stays between us.

I call it a Breakthrough Call because that is genuinely what I have watched it be for women for over two decades.

I am sitting here looking out at the wildflowers right now and thinking that is exactly what healing feels like.

The sun is finally breaking through.

You deserve that same light.

Warmly,

Shawn 💛

About Dr. Shawn Haywood

Dr. Shawn Haywood is the founder of Reimagine Love. She is a classically trained therapist, as well as a life and marriage coach, who loves to work with women and couples to help them heal fully after an affair. Over the past 25 years, she has helped thousands of women move from the cycle of disconnect to one of unbreakable love and connection, while healing fully after infidelity, in a fraction of the time of traditional marriage counseling.