Marriage After An Affair:
3 Crucial Steps to Healing, Forgiving, Renewing Trust, and Getting A Fresh Chance At Happiness ...
For individuals & couples searching to find a way out of the pain, and learning how reconciliation is possible.
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(PS, even if things are feeling completely overwhelming or hopeless, this training will set you on a beautiful course to recovery.
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No woman goes into her marriage thinking her husband will have an affair.
In fact, she likely things, "That could never happen to me."
But when you find out that it IS happening to you- your entire world shifts...​
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Your heart stops
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You go into emotional shock
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You double over with the most horrific pain in your gut
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Your mind races thinking about every grueling, awful, heart-wrenching detail
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You can’t catch your breath, and briefly wonder if you will ever breathe again…
It's death by a thousand heart-wrenching cuts they say…
This is what it is to find out that your husband has been having an affair with another woman
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Not only do the images play and replay again and again and again…
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You can’t sleep
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You can't eat
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You can’t get a straight answer from your husband
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You think you want the truth, but the truth is crippling
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Your mind races and you feel like you might never recover
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And then come the questions:
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Can we survive this?
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Do I want to stay married to this man?
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How can I ever trust him again?
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Do I even want to stay married?
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Can I every look him in the eye again?
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Am I crazy for still loving him?
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Am I even more crazy that I'm thinking of staying?
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Ugh... it's all just so damn painful...
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At some point, you think to yourself, “Come on, get yourself together, after all, you're strong; you’re a capable businesswoman; you can figure anything out. So, you can get through this... too... right...?”
And then you fall into bed again, crying tears that feel like a flood that never-ends…
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With infidelity, in every passing moment, varying emotions can arise and take you over with no notice at all. The feeling of having ZERO control over your emotions and thoughts can seem unbearable and totally overwhelming. The ups and downs you might be experiencing right now (even months or years after an affair) can range from:
"I love you." "I hate you." "Get the heck out." "Don't leave." "I can't stand the sight of you." "Tell me every detail." "Stop, I can't hear one more detail." "Wait, I still love you and want to save our marriage." "I'll make sure our kids hate you for what you've done to us." "You deserve to have nothing." "I still love you in spite of what you did..."
Little else can induce the wild thinking, emotionality, drama and trauma quite like an affair.
This is exactly why I created this class. To help YOU find a path out and forward. To unveil a crack of light at the end of this seemingly unbearable tunnel, and strengthen you to move toward it…
What You'll Learn In This 45 Minute Training + Q&A:
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Understand the 4 DISTINCT phases of healing after an affair, and HOW to navigate each one so that pain and suffering is reduced to the absolute minimum. (Even if you're several months, or years post-affair.) MOST couples simply learn to live with the pain and trauma and it eventually becomes painful 'background noise' that colors every aspect of your life-- INSTEAD of overcoming it and healing it. Don't let this be you...
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Understand CLEARLY how and why infidelity becomes 'available' in a marriage, and how to safeguard your relationship against infidelity in the future, or to safeguard a future relationship against infidelity; and how to build a relationship for sustainable success, joy, connection and Faithfulness.
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Learn SPECIFIC STEPS to DISSOLVING the seemingly, crippling and non-stop mental images, comparisons, and grueling questions of ALL things related to the "other person" whom your partner had the affair with, so that you can move forward with a clear and calm heart and mind, and eventually embrace peace, fulfillment and happiness.
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Gain the tools to DIMINISH, AND EVENTUALLY ELIMINATE the unimaginable guilt, shame, humiliation, and self-hatred that accompanies being partner who had an affair, while gaining the tools to help your partner let go and move on from all the hurt and humiliation of being on the receiving end of the affair.
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Learn 3 SPECIFIC and SIMPLE EXERCISES you can use by yourself, OR together, to start replacing the collective FEELINGS of betrayal, anger, upset, resentment, shame and disappointment; this way you can begin removing conflict, blame, defensiveness, manic thinking and egg-shell walking, while re-building self and other trust and happiness.
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Understand the 4 ESSENTIAL components of a thriving, successful relationship where both partners get far more of what you each want and need- thus, sharing an inspiring, enlivened relationship where you want to lay down your emotional weapons, stop feeling alone, then eventually become unbreakable together.
HERE'S THE THING...
Affair Facts:
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Did you know that nearly 90% of couples who experience infidelity in their marriage NEVER actually solve the problems that led to it in the first place- leaving them feeling long-term resentment, hurt and trauma, while also being vulnerable to multiple affairs?
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Did you know that the same 90% of couples who experience infidelity in their marriage do not get the help they need to heal, recover and regrow the necessary trust and connection to be happy together again- which ends up in a marriage that limps along with vast amounts of hurt, anger, resentment, fear and doubt until one or both partners can't take the pain any longer and file for divorce?
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Did you know that 85% of couples who go to traditional marriage therapy after an affair wind up divorced within 12 months?
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BUT....
Did you ALSO know that with the RIGHT kind of help and support, couples who experience affairs CAN become FAR happier, connected, more playful together, and have deeper, more beautiful communication, trust, friendship and passion than they did before the affair?
IMPORTANT NOTE:
THERE WILL BE NO SIDES TAKEN...
I teach from a place of LOVE and COMPASSION toward BOTH PARTNERS.
The partner who engaged in the affair will not be shamed, nor humiliated. This class seeks to help, support and facilitate healing of BOTH parties.
I want both partners to understand how the marriage became vulnerable to an affair, and begin to move forward out of the emotional warfare that you are both currently facing.
There will be no excuses made for the party who committed the affair, yet will strive to support how understanding can play a powerful role in healing your lives, hearts, minds, emotions and marriage after an affair.
The thing is, when you focus on just a few VERY POWERFUL things in affair recover that TRULY make a difference, you create results and connection that is superior.
Healing and moving forward is about letting go of what's NOT working, so that you can do a FEW KEY things in highly effective ways…
I'll show you the 3-step system all our clients use to LEARN to live powerfully, vibrantly and happily- AFTER AN AFFAIR
WHAT'S INCLUDED IN THIS TRAINING?
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Powerful 2-hour interactive training
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30 min Q&A
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Lifetime access to the recording of this training
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$197 Value
DETAILS
When:
Wednesday, June 24, 2020
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Where:
Zoom (in your PJs with a glass of wine if you like!) Class recorded for your convenience.
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Time:
6:30 pm EST, 5:30 pm CT, 4:30 pm MT, 3:30 pm PST
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Duration:
2 hour training
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Bonus Includes:
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Healing from an affair work book (PDF)
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Includes multiple healing and communication exercises to help you communicate calmly and effectively, and with focused goals for healing and forward progress
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$99 Value
Total Value: $297
Your investment is only $29, but only for the first 30 people who register!
Couples who have experienced infidelity usually experience an enormous onslaught of powerful, erratic, roller-coaster of emotions.
​Unimaginable confusion, pain, rage, guilt, suffering, humiliation, shame, anger, aggression, resentment, hate, love, passion, frustration, compassion, fear, anxiety; feelings of complete and utter grief and loss...
And on and on it goes.
But you can break free from the cycle and move forward after an affair.
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SPACE IS LIMITED, DON'T WAIT!
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Please email directly if you have trouble registering:
drhaywood@reimaginelove.com
Check out a few of our clients' RESULTS!
-Bob and Janice, Owners, Financial Services Institution
"The day I found out my husband had an affair, was hands down, the worse day of my life. The weeks that followed where nothing short of horrific. I stumbled around in a fog and could barely eat, sleep or think. Part of me thought I would suffer in this deep pain forever. But, a friend referred us do Dr. Haywood. At first I was skeptical that anything would or could change.
Yet, during the months that followed, genuine transformation unfolded. Things between Bob and I began to soften- the anger, rage, betrayal, hurt- slowly dissolved. And what's even more surprising, is that all the pain was replaced by a deeper love than we shared before the affair.
It feels like a miracle to have experienced such pain and suffering and to now be sharing my life with my partner in ways that I could have never dreamed possible. I can't say that I am thankful the affair happened, but I am very thankful for where we have landed! Thank you so much Dr. Haywood, for giving us hope and our life and marriage back."
- Monica Shah, Founder of Revenue Breakthrough, Business Coach
"Shawn is simply brilliant. Within 5 minutes of being on the call, my husband said, 'Man she knows her stuff, glad we are here!'.
We learned how to come together behind a unified vision and to follow something better in our relationship then, “he’s right/she’s right”. Shawn’s work is nothing short of a necessity for all couples. I know that I’m trying to get every couple I know into her classes.
This material should be mandatory. It’s way better than couples therapy or retreats because it goes under the surface into principles that really work."
- Cindy, Spa Owner & Brent, CFO
"Shawn has been a God-send. I never in a million years thought I could ever be the same, or better after my wife had an affair. And I definitely never thought I could forgive her, let alone respect her enough to stay married. I always said, 'I'd never stay if my wife cheated on me. And anyone who would is an idiot.'
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Well, things are different when it is you. The reality is, part of me could hardly blame my wife. I was working all the time, or traveling for work. We didn't really have a marriage, and she didn't have a husband who paid her any attention really.
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I'm not making an excuse for her, what she did was wrong. But, on the other side of the pain, anger and betrayal, can be understanding, strength and a whole new relationship.
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These days, my wife and I are madly in love! We talk for hours, hold hands, take long walks, and love each other deeply, the way a couple should. We have become the best of friends. Thank you so much for all your help Dr. Haywood"
- Alexis Underwood, GA Pacific Executive, Loren Simmons, Sustainability Expert
"Loren and I had been together for 11 years, we'd changed A LOT over time. We knew we were falling into unhealthy patterns. But didn't know what to do about it for many years. We hoped there was a better way, a way with less friction and more happiness, but we couldn't find it on our own.
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And then a serious lapse occurred in our marriage...
Transformation is a BIG word. But it is the best description for the work we did with Shawn. I can honestly say that we have never grown so much. Our marriage has taken a major quantum leap forward. The positive transformation has continued in ways we hadn't dared hope.
The tools Shawn taught us keep propelling us forward and keep us deeply connected to each other, are amazing. And now, several months later, everything continues to improve at a beautiful, steady pace.
Shawn gave us the best present anyone could ever ask for - a stronger relationship with the person I've chosen as my partner for this crazy roller coaster called life".​
